He has a successful career. But he's had a relationship that is on and off all the time and very hurtful. He spends all of his spare time getting stoned and sitting at home alone thinking. He insists that the weed just calms him down and helps him, but I think he is using it as a way to block himself away from reality and he's thinking about all bad stuff. He needs to get out of this routine. I'm all for smoking weed for fun, or occasionally to chill. But all the time? That's not healthy.
My sister is a close friend (not her boyfriend - just a close friend) and the only one he'll talk to about this. He won't go to a therapist and she's afraid if she brings someone else into the picture he will feel she betrayed her and not talk to anyone. (It bothers me because this is really worrying her. She's getting that attachment that is so common in this situation where she feels like she's walking on eggshells and she has to help him and that if she can't and something happens it will be her fault for not helping him.)
I was wondering if anyone had any ideas or perhaps a good book for him to read. He loves to write poetry and play guitar. My sister thinks he would be open to reading a book if she bought him one. Obviously reading a book won't solve all his problems. But maybe there is one out there that has something in it that might reach out to him a little.
Any thoughts at all would be appreciated.